I’m probably going to get a lot of backlash and eye-rolls for writing this but whatever this is my blog aka my happy place that I can write whatever I want. These are my thoughts and I ordinarily would rant on Twitter but seeing how I can’t fit all my word vomit into 140 characters. This post will probably contain a lot of run on sentences, incorrect use of punctuation and I can assure you that it’s writing flow is a bit scattered…welcome to my thoughts!
Here’s to looking at you Instagram. Let me start by saying that I 100% understand that it’s all about business. I get it. Instagram was bought by Facebook hence it’s rapid decline and it’s high annoyance factor. Sorry but I kind of jumped off the Facebook train a while ago. In short, it’s just not what it use to be. I do still have my personal account (I’m still playing around with idea of having it for my blog/business but I can’t pull the trigger) where I will from time to time post a picture of Brian & I or of Addison because well let’s face it Addi is adorable and the world outside of my Snapchat & immediate family & friends should be graced with her presence. And like all other couples in the world, I like to show off from time to time how happy I am with my man and to show people that I’m still alive and in one piece because we all have those family members and friends that swear by the rule if it’s not on FB then it didn’t happen or they assume your dead or in jail or something drastic if they haven’t seen a photo of you in 2 months. Facebook like all things started about amazing and so fun and who didn’t feel cool when they hit more than 500 friends or even 1k. Now such a number makes people cringe. And not that you actually knew and were close with said “friends” but hey you at least had seen them before or at least knew someone who actually knew them. It was a platform to connect with others and that was great…in theory. My oh my how things have changed. Fast forward to now and I can’t get my feed to load past the same crying baby photo captioned with love her even when she’s a mess, I am not a parent to a biological child (all fur babies for now) but excuse me for saying this but of course you love her even when she’s a mess, she’s your child. I literally cringe out how many photos post every day and how many status’ filled with useless updates about things that no one cares or should even know about you. I’m sorry but a play by play is not needed to be shared with the world, just hit the high points and even then cut that number in half. I will say that I have a few people on my FB that never stop amazing me with their stupidity and what I deem “creepability” and therefore will never be deleted by my hands. With that being said it leads me to my next rant.
Social media in my mind (maybe I’ve been wrong all these years) is to entertain. To inform. To inspire. To teach. I feel like all of that has been washed away by the almighty wave of money. Yes I am a blogger, yes I like to make money but that is not why I started blogging. Really it’s not. I know so many bloggers say that wasn’t the reason they started but let’s be real, these are the same bloggers that take every freebie on the planet and work for free. Do you, and that’s great if you just want to try new products and help promote smaller brands, that’s great no judgment at all. Really I’m not judging at all (I know some bloggers do look down on those who do this but seriously who cares, it doesn’t affect you) I just say spare me when you say you didn’t start blogging to make money when every chance you get your hustling the latest tampon or bargain knockoff, clearly you started for the free swag and the chance to make a buck. Just own it. Social media has created this fake reality that so many can’t seem to look past. Nothing in life comes easy and the same is true in the blogging world. There were the groundbreakers who paved the way for the rest of us and that is why they are making 6 figure salaries blogging for a living. They worked hard, hustled their asses off and ignored more wtf looks from people when they said they were a blogger. Not to mention all the looks they got for standing on chairs in restaurants to get the perfect shot of their food and the effortless way they looked dodging traffic to get their dress to flow just right. So many talented badass women & men paved the way to give the rest of us a fighting chance and so many of us are making a joke of it. Fact: anyone can be a blogger. But it takes so much to make it a business and that is even more true now. Everyone who dresses cute and has an eye to take a cute shot of leaves thinks that she can just pop up and bam, a full time salary will magically appear in their bank account and that top brands will start spamming your email for the hopes that you’ll wear their designs. Get a grip. I am personally not a big user of hashtags, it’s a personal choice that everyone must make for themselves (anyone know what movie I referenced there?) it’s mainly because after like 3 I’m over it and don’t know which others ones to use…. I don’t care how many hashtags you use to be honest, it doesn’t effect me but I can’t stand that social media has pushed us to think that if we don’t get x amount of likes on our photo that it is garbage. I hate seeing girls take down photos and repost them to see if they’ll get better attention, although this new algorithm is killing everyones vibes especially for sponsored posts. To reference Freud (yes my degree is in psychology) one’s Id is taking control over this Insta situation. “The id, the most primitive of Freud’s Theory of Personality, is concerned with instant gratification…”
We all want instant gratification. Like my photo know, make me feel special now. Even in terms of becoming a success in the blogosphere, so many people want it now and don’t want to work to get it. We all have our moments and it does suck to post a super awesome photo and it gets less attention that some shitty weird photo of a cat but seriously in the grand scheme what does it really matter. The number of likes you get on any social media platform does not define your worth. Some might argue with me on this statement saying that companies only want to work with bloggers who get high numbers in interaction which is true to a certain degree. Brands want to make money so they want bloggers who have high numbers in the hopes that those likes will generate revenue but the key is getting the interactions to buy and that can’t be done if your spamming Instagram with a million and one hashtags to get random likes from often fake accounts. I also have to add that I know it’s hard not copy something that you see is working for someone else but seriously I’m tired of scrolling and seeing someone blatantly copy someone else. I’m not talking about outfits because we all are going to wear some of the same things and style them the same way I’m referring to copying someone’s brand, not saying that you can’t change and have new interest, that’s healthy and shows growth which is awesome, heck I’ve recently started getting more into beauty….I’m still a total new and have no clue what I’m doing but taking you’re readers on your own personal journey is amazing and helps them feel more connected to you. I was referring to those people that are literally trying to morph into another person, you all know what I’m talking about, we’ve all seen those accounts and blogs; is this case imitation is not the sincerest form of flattery. Just because it works for them doesn’t mean it will work for you. And just fyi people can tell the inauthenticity. Not to beat a dead horse (I really want to know where that expression came from) but be yourself. It’s ok to draw inspiration from someone else we all do but put your own spin to it to make it yours. I would also just like to point at that bashing other bloggers or anyone for that matter is flat out pathetic. If you don’t like something someone post just shut up and unfollow them. Their feed, blog or whatever is their personal space to do and say do what they want. I cringe when I read some of the comments on big bloggers posts and even on celebs. Words hurt, even from the trolls who wouldn’t dare say it to your face or even have a public account (I think it’s funny that they always have a private account). In such a small community we should all support one another and as many people preach about it they sure as hell don’t practice it. Jealousy is such an ugly little monster, we all want to live the blogger superstar dream but it takes work and a ton of support so if everyone could just stop hating on those that are thriving and support them because one day it could be you and wouldn’t you want an group of people backing you and cheering you on?!
I am not writing this as a bitter blogger, I’m quite happy with my little blog and how it’s grown in the short amount of time I’ve had it. I’m writing this in an over caffeinated daze who is an social media user, used to be lover and am currently confused by it’s current state. Moving right along to what this whole post is aimed at. Instagram I get you want to make money, we all do and I myself as a user of affiliate links & new business owner, SIEBoutique.com launching in just a few short weeks (shameless plug) obviously wants to make money but controlling who we see on our own feed is downright wrong and quite frankly annoying as shit. I jumped on the Instagram bandwagon later than most years ago but once I was on I was hooked. I could now see not only my friends but others just by browsing a hashtag of something I was interested in. Now it doesn’t seem to matter who I follow chances are I won’t see them because you have now dictated who is important enough for me. Yes I follow said person but what abut my favorites. What about the person I religiously look up and have literally liked everything they’ve posted since the dawn of IG, what about them?
In closing, I just want the old Instagram back and I was everyone to stop being so money hungry. We all want to make money and yes I’m guilty of it but I want to get on social media to be entertained with humor and pretty things not to read a sales ad. And before I get emails from bloggers saying that their IG is their business which is why they promote sales, duh. I get it but when your feed is robotic and pushy like a sleazy middle of the mall kiosk sales person I don’t want to see that and neither do the rest of your followers. There are tasteful ways to sale and still be genuine and real.
*** I hope I don’t offend anyone with my thought because this wasn’t directed at anyone specifically just a bunch of thoughts I’ve had building up for a while and finally felt the need to set them out into the world in the hopes that I’m not the only one who’s had these thoughts.
Here’s a cute picture of Addison to lighten the mood now that I’ve ranted for far too long. This was taken the day I brought her home…I literally still die when I look back at how cute and fluffy she was!
I want everyone to know that social media does not make you, you are amazing regardless of what social media reflects. If you’re a blogger don’t worry about being a little different than the rest, if everyone else is doing it try a different route or make it slightly different so you’ll stand out! Remember that everyone started out small so it’s ok to not get a 5k likes on a photo or get thousands of pages views in a day, just keep doing you, someones watching you and cheering you on even if they never leave a comment! And remember that no matter how big you grow, stay humble!