Is anyone really a grown up? As a child we in a sense idolize are parents and grandparents and think that all elders can fix just about any problem our tiny mouths could throw at them. Even the older kids on the playground when we were in grade school, the upper classman that roamed the halls with us in junior high and in to high school just seemed to have it all figured out. In college, the idea that was embedded into us throughout our entire lives was to go to college, graduate (in a reasonable amount of time for undergrad) and get a job. After we walked across the stage at our now to be alma maters we were expected to have out lives for all intensive purposes, figured out. To be come the new crop of adults, to be a grown up. I’m here to tell you that after graduating college almost 2 years ago, I mentioned in Monday’s post that I graduate on Cinco de Mayo – we had a literal fiesta to celebrate it was the only logical thing to do.
Since I mentioned graduation I wanted to show y’all my cap…still obsessed with it!
I have yet to see much less meet a real life actual adult. Are they real? Sure I’ve met plenty of successful, well established members of society who go to a 9-5, attend bored meetings and fly across the country to attend seminars. Many of them are married, own their own homes, cars and even have had their own children. When I say I haven’t met any adults, I’m referring to my definition of an adult when I was still sleeping on Little Mermaid sheets and thought my dad was a superhero….I mean why would he lie about something to serious? I believed that once you were classified as an adult that the fun part of you was literally zapped from your body. There were no more fun times in your life other than the times you spent as Mom & Dad playing Barbies, dress up and letting me win at just about ever board game (which I know is still your favorite thing). I thought that my life would be over as I knew it, seriously I did just ask my mom. I had a mini breakdown (yes at the age of probably 8 or so I sat in my bed crying my eyes out because and I quote “mom, I never want to grow up, I’m never leaving home. I’m not and you can’t make me!”
Fast forward to now. I’m here to say that I have left my parents house…I left for college and then moved back in for a short period of time but I am in fact out, living with Brian as many of y’all know. I still have friends and despite my fears of the fun being sucked from my body I’m here writing this to tell you that all the fun is still left in my body. Instead of playing the board game Life (which truly I was never a fan of back in the day) it’s a major buzz kill now. Bills, laundry, going grocery shopping…yeah no. Playing house is fun but it’s totally not like when I played in my bedroom with 20 of my closet stuff animal friends. I can’t sit here and totally bash growing up, I mean I can choose to eat ice cream for dinner if I want and there’s no one here to tell me no. I can go shopping and buy whatever I want, I don’t have to wait on an allowance. I can buy a puppy on a whim and there’s no one lecturing me about how I won’t remember to feed or walk her. As with all things in life, both young and older lives, we have to take the good with the bad. We all will go through our own set of obstacles, some of us will have it easier in some arenas of life. Knowing how to handle these curve balls is what separates adolescents from adulthood.
What I’ve learned is that growing up is realizing that no one else is really grown up. Never letting go of your inner kid is what keeps you full of life within. It sounds cliche but dance when no ones looking or hell even when the whole worlds looking. Laugh like no ones listening. Laugh more often, it’s contagious and let’s be real this word could use more laughter, it’s rare to see 2 strangers on the street both with smiles on their face. I love seeing all the shirts in the adult section that have mermaids and rainbows on it, sure there’s a time and place to wear it but who says that after the age of 10 we have to all live boring and wear pant suits? Hell I never stopped playing dress up and feel like I turned out pretty well. Life is scary no doubt but having faith in the Lord, knowing who you are, learning through experience and trusting that the path you’re on is being lead with the best guidance & unyielding love.
I just wanted to say this on the wake of graduation season that it’s ok to be scared, it’s ok to not know you’re next move. Life is too short to be anything other than happy so if you’re life takes you on a different path than everyone else, that’s ok. We have our whole lives to be the type of grown ups who are settled in one place, going to the same job and paying bills. Be the grown up you want to be now! For me I’m still choosing to let my inner 5 year old pick out my jewelry. Case and point, some of my Alex & Ani bracelets include a mermaid, a unicorn and a starfish. 😉